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Honesty July 31, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — scriptiasuburbium @ 3:06 pm

hmm, honesty is a hot topic between my husband and I these days. We are discussing the raising of our children and what morals should be kept, and what are overrated. My darling,sweet, kind and thoughtful husband is of the opinion that sharing is a value we teach our children, but don’t really mean. I cannot disagree more wholeheartedly. Do you think it has something to do with his being an only child? I believe that we tell kids to be honest, but again don’t really mean be honest, we mean be honest when it is easy or kind. I don’t really see anything wrong with this either. Perhaps we tell kids to be honest so we can catch them doing things we otherwise wouldn’t be able to. Also, when the police say”it’ll go easier for you if you’re just honest”-don’t believe them;they have no authority on what’s going to happen to you! More dishonesty! What brings this up is recently a friend has been caught in a lie. Such a minor thing to lie about too, it wouldn’t have mattered or hurt any feelings if she had just told the truth, but she didn’t. Which just makes me question everything she says and does. Do I even really know her?So I guess honesty does have it’s good side.
(for those of you who are wondering, Jay & I are honest with each other, unless it’s unkind & then we’ll find a nice way to say it)

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3 Responses to “Honesty”

  1. projectmetta Says:

    Ooh, good topic/post! Hmm. I guess the best thing (imho) is to teach wee ones to realize the consequences for their actions, and be ready to take responsibility. I’m so glad I don’t actually have children at the moment to try to instill values in, though! πŸ˜‰ Too responsible for me! πŸ˜‰
    This is so philosophical, I’ll be thinking about it all day now!!! πŸ™‚
    Great post and I’m so happy to see you blogging/posting!

  2. Jody Says:

    Great Post! I believe in honesty, and by that I mean, facts. I am going to explain things with the facts as I know them (for example if I am caught red-handed in the cookie jar). As for opinions, I believe in sharing that as kindly as possible. Just because my BF feels I look fat in something, someone a few sizes bigger than me is probably going to think, not at all. There is no fact here. I don’t know how, but maybe you could help teach your children to differentiate between the honest truth/facts and when they are using or giving an opinion about a situation. OTOH, I also lie a lot about random things that don’t matter to random people/strangers (not friends, family). That’s just a weird OCD trust issue I have.

  3. Kristen Says:

    I’m so glad you are back and posting again!
    Honesty is such a tough issue and I think it is important to instill that value at a very young age. However, children are blatently honest about some things…the things they should probably be kind about. They don’t have that filter that we have as adults.


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